6. Be honest about how it feels
For women, there are a few below-the-belt issues that can affect sexual drive, with perimenopause and menopause at the top of the list. “A lot of women suffer vaginal dryness in silence,” says McCann. While men’s sexual problems are often visually obvious, “men can’t easily tell if a woman is in pain during intercourse. And many women feel embarrassed to tell their partner sex hurts.” Try a lubricant such as K-Y or Astroglide. And tell your doctor about any pain or discomfort you experience during intercourse.