3. Experiment with something new
Try novel ways to get sexually connected again, says sex and relationships therapist Pamela Supple:
• Start foreplay early. Linger over a morning kiss rather than giving him a perfunctory peck; whisper something naughty in his ear; massage his shoulders briefly when he gets home. By increasing your emotional connection during the day, you’ll gradually increase your level of arousal all day and into the night.
• Don’t forget the power of touch. Learn how to give a good massage (tip: rub your hands together first so they’re not cold). And have fun experimenting with some edible massage oil in, say, chocolate or vanilla.
• Enjoy each other. “Have a bath together; cuddle on the couch and listen to music; experiment with sex toys; buy the Kama Sutra if you’re game, and laugh as you try new positions in different rooms,” says Supple. “Start slow and see how far you go.”