The myth: “Real love isn’t about dependency.”
We feel ashamed of our deeper attachments and emotional insecurities because in North American culture, we are taught that needing someone (especially true for men) is a sign of weakness.
The truth: A secure loving bond enables independence. “Love is truly a source of emotional and physical resilience,” says Johnson. “We are mammals. Our bodies were designed to curl up around each other. We need to know we can call out to someone and they will come, as children, and that doesn’t go away when we are adults. It’s physiological.”