Stop aiming for perfection
“Are you ever going to hit a point where you know everything in life?” asks Sirota. “I don’t think there’s anything that’s perfection.” Instead, what’s important is to focus on the process – after all, what else is a relationship but a shared journey?
One thing that often changes for women – especially tied to hormonal changes – is natural lubrication, which is an easy problem to fix. “We talk about lube as a sex toy that people don’t think about as a sex toy,” says Forbes-Robert. “It can make sex more pleasurable for everybody.”