Don’t fear the vibrator
Sirota notes that she speaks to many people who are afraid of incorporating sex toys into their relationships – which she things is an attitude that needs to change. “If you want a sex toy, it’s because you want more enjoyment,” she says. “Who wouldn’t want to incorporate more enjoyment? It’s like feeling guilty because you want a couple of drinks with your dinner.”
Forbes-Robert recommends starting with something small and inexpensive, such an external vibrator. “Sometimes there’s an assumption that vibrators are for women only or not for people to use together, but it can be a great way for people to find out what areas are sensitive,” she says.